Society and its social norms, customs which have chained you in a certain way.. The society always draws certain boundaries
for girls women and we have to keep our self within that boundaries.
Girls shouldn't do that. Girls shouldn't that. Girls can't
do that.. I have grown up listening with "don't don't" catchphrase. Be a Good girl... Conceal your feelings.. Hide your
pains.. Be a caged Barbie doll..
There are two things which bother most: fair skin obsession
of our society and Cinderella syndrome.
Yeah.. Totally.. I just hate that Cinderella story from my
very childhood. But our society adores that story like a pitiful girl has been
rescued by her Prince Charming.. Aww... Such a perfect story.. It’s like a girl
who is living in the pitiful state must wait for her Prince Charming to come and
rescue her.. Yes.. A girl can't just rescue herself and girl can't fight against
all odds in her life she must need a Man in her life to rescue her. Girls are
weak fragile like feathers.. Still, today it's a very appealing concept. It
doesn't even matter if a girl excels in her career or study, her main ambition
or goal would be like to a find prince
charming for herself... It’s like a girl is totally worthless if she doesn't find
a Prince Charming like me. Yeah.. I am doing my higher studies in the legal field
and I am working hard yet all these my hard works are completely wasted because
I fail to find a Prince Charming for me while all my classmates are getting
married one by one. I seriously don't understand this logic. My aunt spilt
another shocking truth for me that because of my higher education I never going
to find any suitable man because men don't like highly educated women and it's
hurt their ego if they find out their women are highly qualified than them. I just
hate this Cinderella Syndrome.
Secondly, my society is kind of obsessed with fair skins. Every single time I watch those fair skin cosmetic
products advertisements on TV, I just
want to grab them by the collar and tell them my cousin has brown skin and she is beautiful,
she doesn’t need your fair skin products. My mom is beautiful too.
Well.. I have fair skin.
But let me tell you having fair skin is kind of big deal here. My mom
shared with me that when I was born, the first question that my father had
asked the doctor whether his daughter having fair skin or not. Then he
literally went on with his fair skin rants. After hearing that I have been angry for a
week. In our society most of the family
has that undeclared competition: “my daughter is better looking than yours.” And this competition held on every social family
gathering. My father used to be very proud of his fair-skinned daughter then things got complicated and unfortunately he lost the
race. The reasons of his failure were
his wife and son. Yess!!!! My mom never forces me to use cosmetics, makeup or
dresses up in a more girlish pretty way. She
never had been worried about her daughter’s fair skin. Even today my mom is absolutely fine with my tanned skin while
my father is disheartened….He is like “you stupid girl..look at your tanned
skin..what have you done with yourself.. blah.. blah..” Then comes brother. My elder
brother never treats me as his younger sister, for him, I am his younger
brother. He used to take me to play football cricket with him. Yes, I have grown up playing cricket football with my
brother and his friends. I came back
home with bruises and scars.. I don’t have flawless fair skin.. I have scars.. My father was busy with his office so he
literally didn’t know what was I doing behind his back.. Ultimately my father gave up on this “my
daughter is better looking than yours” competition because of my tanned skin
and scars. I just hate it when one of my
relatives keeps throwing her tantrums in a social gathering like “ my daughter is soo
beautiful… look at her..” then one day that rude lady casually told my cousin it would be
tough for her to find a boyfriend because of her brown skin. I almost
cursed her.
I hate this sick mentality of the people. A girl needs to be pitiful and a girl needs to have fair flawless skin. WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who are you to judge ME!!!
I'm more than just a
number
I'm
a hater, I'm a lover
Fuck
your ribbons and your pearls
'Cause
I'm not just a pretty girl.
Song
by : Maggie Lindemann
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