How are you!!! How are you
doing!! People usually ask me whenever I am meeting with them. Well physically I
am doing fine but I am emotionally mentally not feeling well.
People are reluctant to understand
that Mental Health is a Real important factor for well being.
Mental Wellbeing includes our
emotional psychological and social wellbeing. It affects our daily life. Being not mentally well affects our choice and decision
making. Mental distress, anxiety,
depression all these are REAL not just Medical fantasy Terms.
Abusive and discouragement
treatment within the family during my childhood are main contributed factors for
my mental health issues. Beating kids or
spanking kids is the common socially
accepted parenting trait. Parents often
admit that they have no other choice but to use force to discipline their kids.
Well in my case I was never been demanding spoiled kid. Even today my parents
agree on this matter.
So why did they beat me!! The answer lies in our competitive school exam systems. Our society is kind of obsessed
with school grades, people are literally giving their judgemental remarks about
the kids on the base of school grades. Kids often face discriminatory treatment
because of school grades. If you have great school grades then people give you
special attention and you are like becoming the “Star” “Sun” “Moon” of the neighbourhoods. If you were poor
mediocre student like me who was literally struggling with her studies
especially in mathematics in her school days then people gave you pathetic
sympathetic look and made you feel guilty. Having poor grades in school is like
a Serious crime, it is worse than killing someone.
Somehow parents are always linked
their social status or prestigious reputation with their kid’s school
grades. They bet on their reputation social status on the kid’s scorecard. Parents easily justify their overly pressured parental tactics on their kids with simple
words: we want a bright future for them.
From my experience the act of
spanking a kid does not simply hurt him/her physically – it is the emotional sting
of it that causes the worst effects. Yess!!
My parents.. my father was often beat me up because of my poor
mathematics grades. Mathematics exams were my nightmares. My parents were
literally behaving like cruel villains and they were always ready with their
beating tools to beat me up if I failed to secure less than 80 percent. In my middle school (7th grade) my
father brutally beat me with his belt and I had so my many bruises in my back. Result days were like final judgement day. I
was literally beaten up every year because of my poor school grades. In my high school final, I just scored only 66%
and my father bluntly told it was better for me if I commit suicide. I was thinking of
committing suicide and tried too. I just wanted to die. And my anxiety disorder
symptoms have started from that day.
School grades and the rat race
among parents are the root cause of the mental stress of every student here in our
society. The students suffer from anxiety and traumatic disorder relating to
fear of examination. The fear factor is the reason why students suffer from
anxiety, depression, and the following consequences. And the fear not only
comes from the school society but also
from parents, who go to extreme levels to push their children into getting
better grades. Every hour, one student commits suicide in India, according to
2015 data (the latest available) from the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB).
It’s not at all surprising for
me. I had .. I have been going through the same hell like all other
students. Fulfilling the expectations of
the parents are kind of huge burden for every student out there. I never have that moral encouraging support
from my parents from the very beginning.. Right now I am doing my
specialisation in law and for my father, I am still a hopeless kid.
Right now I am taking help from
my psychologist to overcome my anxiety disorder. Here even taking help from a psychologist is big TABOO. We need to talk about mental stress and seek help if needed. Mental stress is a serious condition that requires medical help.
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